It is hard enough dealing with problems of image when you are a woman. As I’ve grown, I have realized the falsehood of those things and have moved on from comparing myself to actors and models.
As a plus-sized girl, however, I am frequently annoyed with stereotypes and assumptions about us. It is time us big women spoke up and have been heard.
I was very disappointed when a well-known authors’ convention had the whistle blown on them (justifiably so) for deciding to not bring a team member back to this year’s event due to her size. Weight or size discrimination occurs every day and it’s happened to me.
There are lots of distinct reasons someone could be overweight-which is the reason why the stereotypes are so aggravating.
We are always eating.
Consider this TV sitcom in which the token fat person is constantly shoving their face and does not have any self-control. This is partly a lazy method of writing for a cheap laugh. However, it is a common stereotype and it is annoying.
We are all lazy.
I am busy from the moment my feet hit the ground in the morning before my head hits the pillow at night. I am aware of many other overweight folks who are the identical way. Just because we are not hanging out in the gym like it is a hobby does not mean we are sitting on our butts eating candy all day.
We are all sick because of our weight.
I realize that being obese can increase the possibility of a great number of ailments and issues (cardiovascular disease, diabetes, etc.). However, it is not a GUARANTEE and you can not assume that an obese person is suffering from such challenges.
I recall when I became pregnant with my son. I was 37 years old and obese. Don’t think I did not observe the up-and-down eyeball evaluations I was getting. I am aware I’m fat and you believe I am as old as Methuselah to be giving birth, but I am not dumb and I will take good care of myself and my child!”
See your doctor for it. I ate healthy and had good prenatal care. But I could have done with the judgment.
We are jealous of thin men and women.
Not long ago, someone at work (who happens to be lean ) made a huge point in talking for me to go on and on about how fat she thinks she is getting. It’s very apparent that I am considerably heavier than her and she had been talking ONLY to me at the moment. This is not the first time I’ve had this sort of thing said to me.
When someone who’s obviously quite thin says this to somebody who’s obviously thicker, the first thing comes to mind is they want you to say”Oh, I wish I was as thin as you! You aren’t fat in any way!” It is a clear fish for a compliment.
Here is the thing, I do not care about who’s thinner than me. I am not comparing myself to them!
The only person I really care about being drawn to me is my husband, and he is not complaining.
I once had a health coordinator where I work condescendingly tell me”you are worth it” as if she assumed that simply because I was fat, I did not believe I needed to pursue anything I felt was great for me.
We do not know we are fat.
I have had more than 1 individual over my life feel the need to point out to me that I am fat. We do not need for people to make us conscious of being overweight. We are perfectly capable of understanding that on our own, and believe me we understand it.
We do not understand how to eliminate weight ourselves.
We don’t have to be enlightened with unsolicited advice like we are not aware that you want to burn more calories than you eat to be able to drop weight. We are not all totally helpless in this capacity and for lots of us, if need to drop weight bad enough, we will do it!
Sure, there are educated professionals that are extremely skillful and experienced in helping people reach their objectives. Nutritionists, personal trainers, coaches, etc., I am not at all saying they are not valuable or important. What I mean iswe do not require the”stink eye” when we have been indulge in seconds or possess a dessert.
Does not that look nice, vibrant, and delicious with all those vegetables?” She explained this to me like I was a kid, like she was introducing the notion of eating veggies to me. I’m sure of her patronizing schedule because of other things she had said to me previously.
We are all jolly slobs.
Do they so often have to be represented as simple-minded, cute goofballs? Consider the chunky kid from the child’s adventure movie who always has to be rescued or the portly cartoon mouse that’s constantly lagging behind… you understand.
A number people are now very educated, successful professionals. We are goal-oriented and also have a lot to give an organization with our well-developed careers.
There’s a link to hygiene and obesity.
We also are not any less inclined to look or dress professionally to present ourselves well. I once had a family member tell me about somebody they believed seemed unhygienic (and happened to be obese ) by saying”I understand fat aromas…” My eyes about rolled out of my mind.
We all know this is a frequent stereotype or we would not observe the slob character in a TV series or film portrayed as fat. You have seen it-stains in their shirt, wrinkled clothes, general unkempt appearance.
That it is anybody else’s business or that discrimination ought to be tolerated.
What I need to convey about these creators of these stereotypes is this-if it will not affect you, then do not judge. It is not really anyone else’s business what somebody weighs or what size they wear. It is not OK to move your very own low self-esteem toward a fat man so as to make yourself feel better.
Stereotypes and assumptions are harmful. This is the area where discrimination is born. This is the way we’re passed over for promotions and chance. It is not OK to discriminate against someone for any reason, and size isn’t an exception.
It’s time we talked out and learned How to Make Pot Brownies